I had an epiphany the other day. While washing my hair. Who knew such knowledge would spring forth at such an odd time. I guess genius strikes at all hours. Anyhoo, here it is, my theory on Stalkers in the 2000’s.
It seems you hear more and more about stalkers, or there just seems to be more of them. And more violent stalkers are about. Of course, it could just be that media is more pervasive, so that’s why we hear more about them. But I have a theory as to why there are more of them these days.
Trophy Generation. You know, the kids who grew up getting a trophy merely for showing up. Not for success or accomplishment, just because they were part of the league. The ones who grew up participating in sports where no one kept score. Their very existence was lauded and praised, no matter what their behavior or actions.
So, this gen, which has never been told no, stop, or be your best, has now grown into the gen that thinks they can do no wrong. Then, when they are denied things in the real world, they cannot process this betrayal.
Case in point: My daughter has olive toned skin (from Dad) and curly wavy hair (from Mom). She is in a school that is full of all colors of skin and is often mistaken for a Bi-racial person. She is hit on by AfAm guys a lot. She is very shy, so even being hit on makes her nervous. But when she declines their advances they accuse her of being racist. She isn’t. She has friends of all colors, shapes, and sizes. She just has an ideal for the kind of guys she wants to date, Caucasian, football player, country boy, laid back. Someone like her, with the same upbringing. Someone she can relate to.
So what does this have to do with Trophy Gen? These kids have been brought up to believe that they are so special, that when someone tells them no thanks, they have to attack that person as being “fill in the blank”. She’s perfectly happy being friends with these guys, just not interested in dating them. But she gets attacked and denigrated for not accepting their offer.
Back in my day, LOL, if someone didn’t like me, or I didn’t like them, I do not remember anyone being branded a bad person because of the lack of returning the affection. Do you remember this being the case?
So, my theory is, the kids nowadays have been told much too much that they are “it”. And then when they don’t get what they want, they turn their anger at being denied towards the person who refused them. And then build up the issue in their mind until they become obsessed with the situation. Far fetched? I don’t know. But I also see it between girls who are friends, and then fall out. The different factions all keep putting their nose in the other group’s business and just will not drop the bone. Especially if it’s about a guy! They just cannot stand losing or the perception of lose to another. Because, hey, didn’t you know I GOT A TROPHY!!!! My oldest daughter once had a former friend stalk her on the playground because CG took a neutral stance on a spat between two friends. In 3RD GRADE!
But then again, the Trophy Gen has also become this. This comment, “I’m supposed to feel comfortable and safe,” an unidentified student told the Emory Wheel. “But this man is being supported by students on our campus and our administration shows that they, by their silence, support it as well…I don’t deserve to feel afraid at my school.” I don’t care for DT, but seriously? You can’t process the fact that someone else has a different opinion than you?
I JUST CAN’T!!! Someone stop the madness!!!!
So, what say you? Stalkers? Cry Babies? We are so done for when these kids are adults. Wait, will any of them actually make it to adulthood? Doesn’t seem like they are even out of their toddler stage at this point.